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January 5, 2010

WELL

New Health Rule: Quit Worrying About Your Health

By Tara Parker-Pope

Have you had your five to nine servings of vegetables today? Exercised for an hour? Cut back on

saturated fat and gotten eight hours of sleep?

Dictating the rules for healthful living has become a cottage industry, with Web sites, talk shows

and books (and health columns like this one) devoted to the dos and don’ts of staying healthy.

But when it comes to achieving these goals, many of us feel we are falling far short. Whether

you’re a busy parent who can’t find time for exercise, a chronic dieter struggling to lose 20

pounds or a multitasker who gets by on six hours of sleep, it is virtually impossible to follow the

rules.

Now Dr. Susan M. Love, one of the country’s most respected women’s health specialists, offers a

new rule: stop worrying about your health.

In the new book, “Live a Little! Breaking the Rules Won’t Break Your Health” (Crown), Dr. Love

makes the case that perfect health is a myth and that most of us are living far more healthful lives

than we realize.

Dr. Love, a clinical professor of surgery at the David Geffen School of Medicine at the University

of California, Los Angeles, says that failing to live by the various health rules is a major source of

stress and guilt, particularly for women. For most of us, “pretty healthy” is healthy enough.

“Is the goal to live forever?” she said in a recent interview. “I would contend it’s not. It’s really to

live as long as you can with the best quality of life you can. The problem was all of these women I

kept meeting who were scared to death if they didn’t eat a cup of blueberries a day they would

drop dead.”

The book, written with Alice D. Domar, a Harvard professor and senior staff psychologist at Beth

Israel Deaconess Medical Center, explores the research and advice in six areas of health — sleep,

stress, prevention, nutrition, exercise and relationships. In all six, they write, the biggest risks are

on the extremes, and the middle ground is bigger than we think.

“Everything is a U-shaped curve,” Dr. Love said. “There may be times in your life when you’ve

gotten too much of this or too little of that, but being in the middle is better, and most of us are

probably there already.”

Take the issue of sleep. Most people believe that it’s best to get at least eight hours a day. But the

studies on which this belief is based look at how much men and women sleep under ideal

conditions — silence, darkness and no responsibilities other than taking part in a sleep study.

These studies tell us how much people will sleep when they have nothing else to do, but they

don’t tell us anything about how much sleep we really need on a daily basis or what will happen if

don’t tell us anything about how much sleep we really need on a daily basis or what will happen if

we get less.

A 2002 report in Archives of General Psychiatry tried to address those issues by comparing sleep

habits and mortality risk. The study found that people who slept seven hours a night were the

least likely to die during the six-year study period. Sleeping more than seven hours or less than

five increased mortality risk. It wasn’t clear from the study whether more or less sleep increased

risk or whether an underlying health problem was affecting sleep habits, but the findings did call

the old “eight hours” rule into question.

The reality is that individual sleep needs can vary. Some people need very little while others need

more than the average. “The issue of sleep causes a lot of guilt by women,” Dr. Love said. “We

need to be more realistic. If you’re sleepy all the time, you’re not getting enough sleep for you. If

you’re fine on six hours, don’t worry about it.”

Likewise, while exercise is important, many people don’t place enough value on the fitness that

comes from everyday tasks like lifting and chasing children, lugging groceries and cleaning house.

And there is nothing magic about losing weight. People who are obese or underweight have

higher mortality rates, but people who are overweight are just as healthy as those of normal

weight — and sometimes healthier. “The goal is to be as healthy and have as good of a quality of

life as you can have,” Dr. Love said. “It’s not to be thin.”

Health experts agree that moderation is important and that people should not panic about their

health habits. But Dr. Elizabeth Barrett-Connor, professor of family medicine at the University of

California, San Diego, cautions against interpreting a relaxed health message as an excuse to

overeat or stay sedentary. “I think the problem is the slippery slope,” Dr. Barrett-Connor said. “In

the process of translating this message simply to the masses, they may feel they’ve been forgiven.

They shouldn’t feel like they’re sinning, but they shouldn’t feel like this is a license not to try to do

better.”

Miriam E. Nelson, director of the John Hancock Research Center on Physical Activity, Nutrition

and Obesity Prevention at Tufts University, who has read the book, says it may help people realize

that it is easier to be healthy than they thought. “There is a large part of the population that

doesn’t do anything because they’ve been overwhelmed,” Dr. Nelson said. “This book could get

them interested because it’s not so complicated anymore.”

Dr. Love said she and Dr. Domar decided to write the book because many people seemed to have

lost sight of what it meant to be healthy. “The point of this is to use your common sense, and if

you feel good, then you’re fine,” she said. “The goal is not to get to heaven and say, ‘I’m perfect.’

It’s to use your body, have some fun and to live a little.”

Join the discussion at nytimes.com/well.

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